... behind that distant smile
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”.
A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behaviour. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending… compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships…
There is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals… look for someone complimentary… not supplementary.
Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother’s house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
– Oprah Winfrey.
life’s like a highway…
a busy street…
a paved walkpath drenched in sunbeams ang heavy rains…
strangers we meet along the may becomes familiar faces—with a name, they become our acquiantances… through time, they become friends… a silent companion amidst the noise of drifting cars and heavy footsteps of people passing-by…
then there are friends who become family… then you’ll know by heart that you’ll never gonna walk these streets alone.
wanting someone, or people, to be happy is humility…
working to make them feel glad is charity…
granting their whims is obedience…
but starving yourself for others’ joy is a sign of weakness…
for you cannot give what you do not have..
every once in a while, allow yourself to be happy and remember what you truly deserve.,
and doing so grants your heart mercy.
be kind to your self.
if you can take good care of yourself,
you can treat others better.
…you always thought yours would be different…
and I guess, that’s the scary part…
finding out that it’ll be the same… not ordinary, but not different either.
…don’t wish for a heart that’s made of stone—
though hard but still destructable.
…pray for a heart like a copper—
malleable and resilient.. it does bend but does not easily break.. could be torn, but stronger than that of a stone.